Positive Perspectives on a Lonely Shabbos in Yerushalayim
Over the
past many years I have B”H traveled to Eretz Yisroel many times with the
predominant focus of inyanei klal. These trips spanned decades and were
invariably allowed me to stay with family or with friends.
Recently,
someone treated me to a Shabbos in a hotel having seen that I went through a
very tense and exhausting Yom Tov and knowing that I was coming to Eretz
Yisroel for a Motzei Shabbos speaking engagement. My initial reaction was to
refuse, although my children have moved back, I still have quite a bit of
family that would be extremely happy if I would spend Shabbos with them.
Ultimately I acquiesced to his request simply due to the fact that I needed
some quiet time which I generally do not have except when I am flying to and
fro.
Knowing
that I would be spending Shabbos sitting at a table alone was something that
haunted me as I tried to muster the strength to be able to do so. I indeed
thought that this would be doable as I am well aware of a multitude of people
who are either single, divorced, widowed and spend various Shabbosos without
any children, relatives or friends. After reciting Kiddush, eating the fish and
then having some soup, it really hit me hard. I looked around the room of
couples and families and realized that I can’t do this. One part of me wanted
to be invited to someone’s table, although the other part of me just wanted to
rest and be alone. As I thought of all the people who do spend Shabbos alone
the pain in my heart got deeper and stronger to the point where I started to
shed tears. Shabbos is a time of achdus and unity, and sitting at a table alone
was a very dreadful experience to say the least.
Our rabbis
teach us אל תדין את חברך עד
שתגיע למקומו Don’t judge
someone until you are in their place.
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